'We cultivate compassion to soften our hearts and also to become more honest and forgiving about when and how we shut down. Without justifying or condemning ourselves, we do the courageous work of opening to suffering. This can be the pain that comes when we put up barriers or the pain of opening…
“Females create life, males end it. War, crime, violence, are primarily male franchises. Man shit. It’s nature’s supreme joke.
Deep in the womb, men start out as the good thing, and wind up as the crappy thing. Not all men. Just enough. Just enough to fuck things up.”—George Carlin, ‘When will Jesus bring the Pork Chops?’, “The Male Disease” (via closedforprayer)
“…Thus the goal for the Buddhist is not happiness, because we realize that happiness is unsatisfactory. The goal lies away from the sensual world. It is not a rejection of the sensual world, but understanding it so well that we no longer seek it as an end in itself. We no longer expect the sensory world to satisfy us. We no longer demand that sensory consciousness be anything other than an existing condition that we can use skillfully according to time and place.”—Ajahn Sumedho (via cazham)
“It is a basic human need that everyone wants to
live a happy life. For this, one has to experience
real happiness. The so-called happiness that one
experiences by having money, power, and
indulging in sensual pleasures is not real
happiness. It is very fragile, unstable and fleeting.
For real happiness, for lasting stable happiness,
one has to make a journey deep within oneself and
get rid of all the unhappiness stored in the deeper
levels of the mind. As long as there is misery at
the depth of the mind all attempts to feel happy
at the surface level of the mind prove futile.”—S.N. Goenka (via cazham)
“Our life is vast. It does not stop at the limits of what we personally experience. It is not something concrete or bounded. I do not think it is valid to view our life as limited to just ourselves — as if our human life extended only as far as our own body. Rather, we can see that a life extends out in all directions, like a net. We throw a net, and it expands outward. Just like that, our life extends to touch many other lives. Our life can reach out and become a pervasive part of everyone’s life.”—17th Karmapa (via thetaooflife)
“Enlightened heart is expansive and awake. It is not territorial, and it does not demand that we gather our own flock of egotistic companions. When we look into that quality of basic wakefulness beyond our own territoriality, we find ourselves having a taste of enlightenment for the very first time.”—Chögyam Trungpa (via thetaooflife)
“When we do not thoroughly and properly understand the phenomenon around us, we tend to be deluded , to have wrong ideas, which lead us to make mistakes. Then we will suffer ill consequences as a result. However is we have correct understanding about life and the universe, we will be free from mistakes in thought, judgement and behaviour. Then our result or effect will be favorable.”—Buddhism: The awakening of Compassion and Wisdom - Venerable Master Chin Kung (via lifewellnessyou)
“When we look back, at the time of death, the experience of this life will seem like a dream. And—just as with our nighttime dreams—it will seem useless to have put so much effort into it. The fear we experience in a dream is gone when we wake up; feeling afraid was just an unnecessary exertion of effort causing us to lose sleep! When we look back on our lives at death, the amount of time we spent in hesitation, aggression, ignorance, selfishness, jealousy, hatred, self-preservation, and arrogance will seem like an equally useless exertion of energy. So be able to regard all of these illusory thoughts and concepts as dreams. Within this illusory existence, what, if anything, is the logic behind any stubbornness, distraction, hesitation, or habitual emotions of aggression, desire, selfishness, and jealousy? What is the use of holding on to these useless emotions within impermanence? Impermanence is the nature of everything.”—Khandro Rinpoche in Buddha’s Daughters: Teachings from Women Who Are Shaping Buddhism in the West, page 139 (via dharmasimulation)
“People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don’t even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child — our own two eyes. All is a miracle.” -”—Thich Nhat Hanh (via thescientist19)
St. Theresa a sixteenth century Catholic nun of the Carmelite order was no ordinary nun. She experienced God directly in raptures. She reached these raptures through a four part prayer process which, to a Buddhist, sound very familiar.
The first was “mental prayer” which involved concentration…
“The art of living is to get positive feedback without a sense of domineering or high jacking the other. This is a fluid experience where under times of stress, getting narcissistic needs met in a pleasant and not off-putting way is more challenging, and hence difficult situations often spiral down to more despair”—
“Neuro-psychoanalysis claims to offer a kind of psychological grand unified theory: by correlating neurological insights into the structure and function of the brain with psychoanalysis’s attentive observation of subjectivity, neuro-psychoanalysis ought to be able to avoid, on the one hand, the mechanistic reduction of mental life sometimes associated with neuroscience, and, on the other, the mystical preference for theory over scientific fact sometimes characteristic of psychoanalysis.”—
“Neuro-psychoanalysis arises out of the belief that the theoretical models we construct in psychoanalysis from our observations of the subjective life of the mind, that those models describe a thing, which must be the same thing that neuroscientists are attempting to study when they derive models of the mental apparatus from their neuroscientific observations. In other words, neuro-psychoanalysis exists because we believe that there’s only one thing called the human mind, which we’re studying from these two different points of view. And if that assumption is valid, then it sort of necessarily implies that we have everything to gain and little to lose by trying to combine our different findings in order to correct viewpoint-dependent errors and arrive at a more satisfactory account of how the mind works.”—
True peace is received whenever we completely eradicate this root of suffering. In other words, cessation of ignorance, attachment and anger is real freedom, true peace — the peace that never changes; the peace that once received can never change, is everlasting.
“I see what grief does, how it strips you bare, shows you all the things you don’t want to know. That loss doesn’t end, that there isn’t a moment where you are done, when you can neatly put it away and move on.”—Elizabeth Scott, Heartbeat (via quoted-books)
“There can be no knowledge without emotion.
We may be aware of a truth,
yet until we have felt its force,
it is not ours.
To the cognition of the brain must be added
the experience of the soul.”—Arnold Bennett (via songsabouttheunspeakable)
“I would hardly change the sorrowful words of the poets for their glad ones. Tears dampen the strings of the lyre, but they grow the tenser for it, and ring even the clearer and more ravishing.”—James Russell Lowell (Unitarian, poet, reformer, statesman)
There is an otherness inside us We never touch, no matter how far down our hands reach. It is the past, with its good looks and Anytime, Anywhere … Our prayers go out to it, our arms go out to it Year after year, But who can never remember enough?
—Charles Wright, from “The Southern Cross,” in The Southern Cross (Random House, 1981)
“We fear disturbance, change, fear to bring to light and talk about what is painful. Suffering often feels like failure, but it is actually the door into growth.”—May Sarton (Unitarian Universalist, novelist, poet, essayist, diarist) Journal of a Solitude (1973)
“You always learn from observing. You have to pick things up nonverbally because people will never tell you what you’re supposed to know. You have to get it for yourself: whatever it is that you need in order to survive. You become strong by doing the things you need to be strong for. This is the way genuine learning takes place.”— Audre Lorde, from an interview dated April 1981 (via violentwavesofemotion)
“You shouldn’t try to stop everything from happening. Sometimes you’re supposed to feel awkward. Sometimes you’re supposed to be vulnerable in front of people. Sometimes it’s necessary because it’s all part of you getting to the next part of yourself.”—Cecelia Ahern, The Book of Tomorrow (via simply-quotes)
“Once you realize that most of your thoughts are lies and not worthy guides, you lose interest in them. Some thoughts and words are useful, such as ‘please pass the butter,’ but most do not refer to anything real or serve any purpose. Once you see this, you can’t be bothered with them anymore. They can’t compete with the richness of the present moment. The difference between thoughts and the present moment is like the difference between fantasy and reality.”—Nirmala, Nothing Personal (via cricketbaker)