Do not believe anything
because it is said by an authority,
or if it is said to come from angels,
or from gods,
or from an inspired source.
Believe it only if you have explored it
in your own heart
and mind and body
and found it to be true.
Work out your own path,
~ Gautama Buddha
Reverend Patti Nakai
Tricycle: The Buddhist Review
“First of all, Buddhism is neither pessimistic nor optimistic. If anything at all, it is realistic, for it takes a realistic view of life and the world. It looks at things objectively (yathābhūtam). It does not falsely lull you into living in a fool’s paradise, nor does it frighten and agonize you with all kinds of imaginary fears and sins. It tells you exactly and objectively what you are and what the world around you is, and shows you the way to perfect freedom, peace, tranquility and happiness.”
― Walpola Rahula, What the Buddha Taught with Texts from Suttas & Dhammapada
How EASILY we allow others to affect, control and influence us! The operative word being ALLOW. Even if they are just silently standing still beside us, our mind starts building assumptions, expectations and stories in our head about them and what they MIGHT think of us, and we let these pierce us to our core. And we start living with these assumptions, these FEARS. We LIMIT our lives based on these phantoms we ourselves spawned! How PATHETIC we are!
We can CHOOSE to stop this. We can be IN CONTROL of our lives again and start living in reality, in What Is."